Who is looking longingly after the big love, but a relationship-interlude to the next ranks, you must not despair of themselves. He or she can appoint a unusual culprit: the own mother. The at least one new study suggests, which has now been published in the journal “Plos One”.

Thus, a relationship between the number of one’s own life partner and the mother. So the mother to give more important personality traits to their children that make it more likely or less likely that you will perform in your life stable and long-lasting relationships, the researchers write.

“We found that mothers have certain character traits and behavioural patterns that decide how attractive they are for partners,” says Claire Kamp Dush, lead author of the study and assistant Professor of human Sciences and sociology at the Ohio State University in Columbus. “Children learn and internalize this and you can incorporate into your own Actions in relationships.” This includes the ability to build trust or solve problems were about.

relations of the parents to shape children for a lifetime

That there is a connection between the Relationship skills of the parents and those of children, have shown in the past other studies. So the subsequent marriages of divorce, children on average are less stable, many of the Adolescents influences the separation of the parents her whole life.

The new study looked in more detail at the causes of this phenomenon and took into account not only Married, but also firm verpartnerte relations. The U.S. analyzed researchers long-term data. A first set contained data from more than 12,600 Jestbahis people have been interviewed since 1979, at least every two years to their relationship situation.

A second data set from 1986, contains the same data of their biological children. As the survey in the United States, began almost forty years ago, was the selection of the persons involved in country-wide representative. This couldn’t be more applicable due to the demographic development now, for today, add the researchers restrictive. A statement on the binding ability of fathers and their impact on the children, not the study.

Nevertheless, the mountains, the two long-time records for Kamp Dush and her Team have a wealth of information and research opportunities. One question was whether children change later on more likely to the Partner, if they have witnessed in their parents separation. This hypothesis is not confirmed, however.

“Our investigations showed, however, that mothers give, apparently, something of relationship skills to the children,” says Kamp Dush. If the mother tended to frequent change of partners, would learn the children the patterns of behavior that have led to, in the course of time and, therefore, more likely to be self-similar relations.

This was confirmed by a comparison of half-siblings of the same mother. A sibling child had not witnessed the separation of the mother from the first Partner, the second child. Nevertheless, similar to many of the partners had both siblings later – regardless of how many breakups have you personally witnessed, and were able to observe. The decisive factor was, apparently, what behaviors the mother of your children, says Kamp Dush. “In Good and in Bad.”

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